ENQUIRING

The custom of enquiring is to find out the background of the intended girl. The Chinese communities give weightage to the girl name, ancestry, personality, behaviour and personal life. These traits are important to establish a permanent marriage. The discussion during the enquiring revolves around general issues especially about the family background.

The enquiring method is up to the parents as, normally, the man parents would ask their friends who know the girl family. Most Chinese favour to hold such discussion in restaurants with their relatives in attendance. This tradition of having a meal together is very important to the Chinese as the event can strengthen the bond between both families.